For the Men, What Is a Fetish?

Good Morning,

I feel as though myself and I am sure like minded providers have been explaining this for years. Fetishes are precise they are not just you especially liking certain sexual acts ( vanilla ones) and positions. Let me explain.

Last week , ( and many times in the past)  I had a man reach out to me . I also had him read my website and then come to the conclusion as he put it that I did not cater to his particular fetish.  I am dominant in personality to my core, it is who I am as a real person, not just an act I put on .  No worries though gentlemen , I know when to be soft, feminine and a “girlfriend” companion as well and do it more often than my Mistress personality.  However, my spidey senses let me know that he was probably referring to bare play , which HELL no I won’t do, or CIM which again wont do ( basically every last thing with me is covered , except DATY) but I then thought he may also be referring to “backdoor” , BTW I accept money for time and companionship ONLY never for actions or services.  With that being said you should never ever even attempt to get me to discuss such things to begin with.

But I explained to him that no unsafe play is allowed and that “backdoor” is NOT a fetish.

Now some of you reading this are probably thinking it is as well. In 2017 most people deem anal play as rather mainstream, NOW not all ladies play this arena I know I prefer to NOT participate , so no while it is NOT normal for me it is in my opinion however mainstream enough that it is not a fetish!

Here is the actual textbook definition of a fetish

  1. 1.
    a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.
    “Victorian men developed fetishes focusing on feet, shoes, and boots”
    synonyms: fixationobsessioncompulsionmaniaMore

  2. 2.
    an inanimate object worshiped for its supposed magical powers or because it is considered to be inhabited by a spirit.
    synonyms: jujutalismancharmamuletMore


Now while you  may be fixated on anal or asses , this is not abnormal or unique at all, this is the point I need you to understand.

I think most of us look at fetishes as to include a few, I am sure I am not even touching the surface on the possibilities, but to include:

foot worship

armpit worship

face sitting

cock and ball torture

forced feminization

strap on w/ domination

forced cross dressing

and the list could go on and on, the point is its getting off sexually on things that are NOT mainstream or vanilla. Maybe your girlfriend or wife or many providers you see are not into certain things , maybe you really enjoy certain things but that does NOT make them considered fetishes.

This particular gentleman in question got upset when I tried to teach him the correct terms to use , I actually was trying to help him by teaching him how to better interact with the next companion he may choose to reach out to.  He did not seem to understand so ever since then and in light of how often that convo happen I decided to touch base on this today.


Merely enjoying an act immensely , especially if its an act that is not odd to many is not in my opinion and in many opinions a fetish. Anal may be your favorite thing, I get it but I would not label that a fetish. I would label having a  woman sit on my face till I tapped for air ( face sitting) a fetish. See the difference?

I would consider worshiping a beautiful woman’s feet while she talks down to you or while she ignores you all together to the point of it making you explode all over yourself.. a fetish, again see the difference?


I hope this little lesson clears up any confusion.

Feel free to visit the other services tab on this site to see what Fetishes I enjoy!!!!




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